Saturday, June 28, 2014

Christian Singleness: 2 things to remember

I'm not sure why, but for some reason it is this time of the year, during the summer, that I stuggle the most with still being single. It's probably because I see so many other relationships going on around me, and I want nothing more than to just be with my own significant older. Ugh. The struggle is real my friends.

I'll be perfectly honestly, I've been complaining a lot to God about this lately. I've been asking Him to bring my future man into my life RIGHT NOW. I have such a strong desire to be in a relationship with someone, and the desire is only growing stronger. However I'm not just waiting on any guy. I'm not looking for the next "good" guy. I'm waiting on a guy who passionately loves Jesus like I do. Heck, if I wanted to be any old relationship it would be simple. I could probably make it happen in a couple days, to be perfectly honest [not to sound cocky or anything, but it is true, and I am sure many of you Christian ladies can relate]. 

For awhile to diminish the void of wanting to be in a Christ-centered relationship, I thought to myself that maybe I should take action and go make it happen myself. So I started talking around to some Christian guys, and it was a ton of fun. But then, out of no where, a disruption began in my soul. I didn't have a peace about what I was doing, and I felt like God was telling me that regardless of how badly I wanted to be in a relationship at this present time, I need to submit my desires to Him and focus on the other things that He has called me to do. I  knew I couldn't move forward with what I was doing if I didn't have a peace about it from God. So I pulled away, and felt like I had made the right decision.

So now I'm learning that there are two major things that come into play with being in a Christian relationship. Number one, timing is extremely important. You can be like me and have the most passionate desire to be in a relationship and even feel 100% ready to be in one, but if the Lord says the timing is off then you have to listen to Him. I want a peace about my relationship with my future husband that surpasses all understanding, and I think that peace will come when I listen to God and allow it to happen in His time. 

Number two, it obviously needs to be a Christian guy. Jesus is the most important part of my life. I talk about Him all the time [because He's amazing and changed my life, of course!]. Every good thing that I have in my life comes from God. I can't imagine dating someone who doesn't share that same love for Jesus as I do. It would be so horrible and discouraging. Thank you Jesus for giving me the desire to be with someone who loves You. I pray that wherever my future husband is right now, that  you would give him patience in waiting to meet me, and that he would use his time of singleness intentionally to grow deeper in his relationship with You.

So thanks God, for making it clear to me, that as Your daughter, it is just not Your will for me at this specific time to be in a relationship. I'm not entirely happy about it, but I trust You your Your will for my life.

 But those who wait on the LORD will find new strength. They will fly high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.
Isaiah 40:31




  1. I can relate with this so much! My friend and I were talking about relationships last night and I think it's so important to rely on his timing. Timing can be everything and it refocuses us to rest in His plan.

    xo, gina

  2. This SO hit home. Thanks for putting into words many of the thoughts swirling around in my head.

  3. I have been where you are. But after trying to force God's timing and learning my lesson in the form of bad relationships and men I learn to let go and let God. One thing I learned when looking at other people's relationships and marriages is everything that glitters is not gold. I counsel Christian couples quite often and you would be amazed and how many forced their marriage, are not happy, and would kill to be single again. When hearing their stories it really gave me contentment in waiting.

  4. Girl, you are so on the right page. I too, would try and "make things happen" my way. One time, I was sitting in church and pondering on a particular guy I was crushing on, even though God had clearly shown me it either wasn't the right time or it wasn't the right person, but I was spinning in my mind anyway. That was one of the clearest times I've ever heard from God, a voice as clear as mine rang through my head "Amy, I have better for you." I wasn't sure what "better" meant, but I clung to that promise any time my mind would get spinning again.

    He is SO faithful. He loves us so much. Beautiful post, my dear!

    1. wow thanks Amy, your comment totally spoke to me, and I really appreciate you writing these encouraging words. I have totally been there, and I feel God telling me the same thing for my own life. I can't wait to see how it all turns out with whoever God has planned for me to be with. It's tempting to try and make things happen my own way now, but I just gotta pray for patience! You are a blessing my dear!! love you a bunch!

  5. Your heart is so sweet, and your words echo the quiet ponderings of my own. How amazing is it when we wait on the perfect timing of the Lord, our *Father*. I too get in those times where I'm like "Ok Lord, I know I'm ready, so... can you kinda, you know, maybe just start this journey soon? Today?" and when His answer is to be still and wait on His timing, I'm reminded of how much more I need to grow, knowing that HE knows me even more than I do. How amazing it is to have a Father watching over His daughters with such love and devotion! Oh to trust Him more!


  6. This is exactly where I was last year. Singleness is so frustrating, and I was surrounded by a church body full of young families, modeling Christ's love for His church in their marriages. I wanted that!!! I so think your 2 points are hitting the nail on the head. Without God's timing, life get's chaotic no matter how much your desires might be coming true because you're trying soo hard. Great verse to close your thoughts!

    Patterned Love

  7. Love this. I wrote (Single Ladies) recently about the pressures that single woman face in the church. I agree the struggle is very real...but God is ever faithful! Great post! :)

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  9. I love this post. I hope for the same too. I just made a post about this the other day on my facebook and if you don't mind I would like to share it with you. "I see so many girls post about how they're ready to meet "the one" and while I hope for that too, I still don't want to rush it. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but so are your single days. Devote these days to the Lord, and seek Him wholeheartedly. Grow and mature in His word, and allow Him to shape and mold you emotionally and spiritually to be the God fearing wife that your future husband needs you to be. Enjoy this season of waiting. Our time will come." Psalm 37:4-5